Posts Tagged ‘everyday grief’
If Someone Had Told Me…
By: Jennifer Haake Rainbows. If someone had told me that rainbows would become such an important part of my life, I would have looked at them like they had two heads. Why would rainbows ever be important? I mean sure, they are pretty and everyone loves them, but important? The first important rainbow was on…
Read MoreThe Art of Letting Go, Dear Tahlequah
By: Kathy Gardner it was 17 days and 1,000 miles of carrying love, of carrying her — days and miles that I and so many others have traveled, too. everyone else seems so relieved this heartbroken mother has finally let go, but we loss moms know it just looks like letting go. the journey of…
Read MoreWe Are All Just Walking Each Other Home
By: Kathy Gardner the circle i find myself in now is small and narrow and sad i go round and round traveling with the other moms who have gouged their own eyes out, too the world has become too scary, too painful, too distorted to look at so we grab each others’ hands and lead…
Read MoreHonoring Your Baby: Rituals and Daily Life
By: Brooke Taylor Duckworth When my first daughter, Eliza, was stillborn, I felt paralyzed. Even a few months out from her death, I still didn’t know what to do that would feel like a proper way to honor her. Eventually, we did a variety of different things to honor her memory—and we continue to do…
Read MoreWhy Ignoring Anniversaries Of Loss Doesn’t Work
By: Anna Eastland On March 30th, it was the six month anniversary of my baby daughter Josephine’s stillbirth. I approached the day with a bit of dread, worried it would send me back and undo my recent period of emotional improvement. I tried to decide what to do…plan a trip with the kids to Science…
Read MoreParched Grass
By: Anna Eastland It’s such a hot summer that I don’t know which flowers to bring you Everything dries up so fast gets parched and wrinkled in the heat and there’s enough death already in the graveyard There should be a stone at least shiny and beautiful at first with simple eloquent words in your…
Read MoreShe Was Here And She Was Loved: Honoring Your Baby
By: Leslie Steele She was here. She was here, and she lived, loved, and was loved. And being an angel mommy means you make it one of the primary purposes of your life to celebrate and remember that indeed, your precious baby was here. And my daughter Hadley was here and she was beautiful. In…
Read MoreHealthy Grieving
By: Maria Carella The grief process takes enormous physical, mental and emotional energy. This process is not linear or orderly, and it is unique to each person. Some days it feels like a full time job, a minute-to-minute experience of competing thoughts, feelings and images. Other days it feels more manageable. Healthy grieving is a…
Read MoreSelf Care After Baby Loss: Finding Your Way
By: Brooke Taylor Duckworth When your baby dies, the last thing you really want to take care of is yourself. You just spent weeks and months daydreaming of taking care of an infant—and in all likelihood, you started that process by taking care of yourself during pregnancy. But, somehow, it didn’t work. I was so…
Read MoreBeing a Father With an Asterisk
By: Christopher C. Natsch I’m a father who lost his son. That statement should stand on its own. But, for me and for many other dads that I’ve talked with, it’s just not that simple. As a father who suffered a loss due to stillbirth, there was a time that I felt as if that statement…
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