Stillbirth
The Art of Letting Go, Dear Tahlequah
By: Kathy Gardner it was 17 days and 1,000 miles of carrying love, of carrying her — days and miles that I and so many others have traveled, too. everyone else seems so relieved this heartbroken mother has finally let go, but we loss moms know it just looks like letting go. the journey of…
Read MoreWe Are All Just Walking Each Other Home
By: Kathy Gardner the circle i find myself in now is small and narrow and sad i go round and round traveling with the other moms who have gouged their own eyes out, too the world has become too scary, too painful, too distorted to look at so we grab each others’ hands and lead…
Read MoreA Thief In The Night
By: Vernitta Walters Tuesday, December 12, 2017. The time had come, our “BIG” 20-week appointment! I was so excited and slightly apprehensive at the same time. Weeks leading up to the appointment, I kept telling myself, if I can just get past the 20-week appointment, I could breathe a sigh of relief. By then, I…
Read MoreHonoring Your Baby: Rituals and Daily Life
By: Brooke Taylor Duckworth When my first daughter, Eliza, was stillborn, I felt paralyzed. Even a few months out from her death, I still didn’t know what to do that would feel like a proper way to honor her. Eventually, we did a variety of different things to honor her memory—and we continue to do…
Read MoreA New Season: Honoring Your Baby
By: Robyn Busekrus As the Fall season approaches, it is bittersweet. Fall has been my favorite season, but this year it has a somber feeling. This time last year, was such a time of joy as we were anticipating our son. The cool weather, the breezes, pumpkins and leaves falling are some aspects of fall…
Read MoreSpecial Dates and Red-Letter Days
By: Sabrina Ivy There’s a little girl dancing through my daydreams. She has long brown hair and a soft yellow dress. If I listen closely I can almost hear her giggling. I try to envision her features, but I can never see her face. Would she look like her sister or brother? Would she have…
Read MoreWhy Ignoring Anniversaries Of Loss Doesn’t Work
By: Anna Eastland On March 30th, it was the six month anniversary of my baby daughter Josephine’s stillbirth. I approached the day with a bit of dread, worried it would send me back and undo my recent period of emotional improvement. I tried to decide what to do…plan a trip with the kids to Science…
Read MoreSeeking Guidance From a Professional Therapist
By: Brooke Taylor Duckworth This month, I wanted to ask a professional therapist about coping with baby loss, and no one seemed better equipped to discuss this subject than a therapist who is also a bereaved mama. My friend, Lindsey Antin, is a licensed marriage and family therapist in Berkeley, California. We became friends through…
Read MoreParched Grass
By: Anna Eastland It’s such a hot summer that I don’t know which flowers to bring you Everything dries up so fast gets parched and wrinkled in the heat and there’s enough death already in the graveyard There should be a stone at least shiny and beautiful at first with simple eloquent words in your…
Read MoreThe “Boo” in the Taboo that Haunts Miscarriage
By: Jessica Vogler Miscarriage happens every single day. In fact, the Center for Disease Control and Prevention report on their website that 25% of women experience at least one miscarriage during their reproductive years. That means every fourth woman you see in your daily routine has probably had a miscarriage. Why, then, is it so…
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