Stillbirth
Mothering Each Day
By: Robyn Busekrus The birds are singing and the sun is shining. When I turn the calendar to May, it brings sadness. I say to myself, “Here we go again.” This month, we honor mothers and for those of us who have been on this loss journey it is difficult. This May, my son would…
Read MoreBooks To Comfort Your Heart: A Quarantine Reading List
Losing a baby can be a lonely, isolating experience, and unless one has known someone who had such a loss, it is easy to feel as if no one understands what you are experiencing. For those who are grieving the death of their baby, the right books can help you process the loss. Different types…
Read MoreA Brief Life But One of Love
By: Anna Eastland I recently attended a celebration of life for a baby boy who lived for one month. His name was Matthew. He had the genetic defect Trisomy 18, so it was actually a miracle he lived that long. Before the funeral Mass, his mother, Maggie, got up and spoke in front of the…
Read MoreBlown Glass
My journey began as sand. Small grains that made up the very essence of my being. Slowly and carefully the Artist worked, added, and toiled to create His work of art. Overtime I became molten glass, untouchable…A force to be reckoned with. A free spirit even the darkest of nights lusted to tame. The sands of time were worked…
Read MoreNo One Really Understands What It Means To Be A Loss Mother
By: Ashley Bonebrake Fairchild Now, don’t get me wrong, I feel incredibly blessed in my life. I have my health and the health of my husband and living daughter. I love them with the fierceness of a lioness and always will. I thank my lucky stars for them every single day. No matter how bad…
Read MoreEmbracing Our Realities Even in the Face of a Shared Grief
By: Tosin Popoola Introduction Among the Yoruba people of Nigeria, pregnancy and perinatal loss are understood and interpreted from the concept of ‘pot and water.’ From the Yoruba worldview, a pregnant woman is like a pot and the pregnancy she is carrying is the water. From this perspective, when Yoruba people want to communicate that…
Read MoreBaby Loss Photography: On Memory and Celebration
By: Anna Eastland Why did we take pictures of those we love? So that at another time in the future we may be present to them again as we were in that moment. Photographs allow us to transcend time. We are able to re-present that moment, to make it present again. Because of our spiritual…
Read MoreA Fresh Wave of Grief
By: Robyn Busekrus There is no easy way to deal with triggers. They will always be with us. Sometimes when a song comes on the radio the emotions come strongly. We each have our own way of facing our triggers and every person’s way of dealing with their emotions is okay. I know when I…
Read MoreWe Are Missing It All
By: Sabrina Ivy We are missing it all. And tonight it hurts like hell. Baby loss isn’t something that just happened at one tragic day in our lives years ago. It is something that we carry with us as we endure each and every day and special occasion that comes and goes without our daughter…
Read MoreHelping My Sons Grieve
By: Robyn Busekrus I wish loss wasn’t a part of our journey. When we found out we were expecting, we had this vision of what our family would look like. It had been some years since having our boys, and we always had wanted another child. One of the hardest parts of this journey is…
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