When God Closes The Door, And No One Is Opening A Window

By: Natalie Johnson

Our Infertility Story

For the past 5 years my husband and I have come to realize that infertility can drain you in every.single.way. Every story is different, but all can have seem to have a constant theme of being full of hope but then, somewhere along the line, a proverbial plug is pulled out to leave a feeling of absolute emptiness. You have to refill and start again.

When the plug is pulled out over, and over, and over… it just gets exhausting. What kept us going was our faith that we can trust God’s timing, our friends and family who believed in us, and ultimately a seed that had been planted. We HAD to be parents.

If you’re reading this, then you probably know what I mean. You can’t go through a day or night without dreaming about your child. The best word to describe the feeling is ‘ache’, which can be defined as a ‘continuous or prolonged dull pain; an emotion experienced with painful or bittersweet intensity.’

The Reader’s Digest version of the past 5 years is that I had cancer in the early 90’s. I was 4 years old and there was a tumor fingered through my pelvis. When a child received radiation back then, it stunted the growth of that specific site. I have been 24 years cancer free (YAY!) but my hips and internal organs are not as developed as they should be. I carried two healthy babies, but delivered them early because my uterus would not stretch. I would have done it over and over but I hemorrhaged SO much each time that my doctor told me if it happened again, I would get a hysterectomy at age 25.

Door #1 to close: carrying my own baby.

Thankfully, my awesome friend Katie, who I will always think is an angel, offered to carry our babies. We took out a loan and went through the process of surrogacy. It was SO out of my comfort zone but seemed to make sense. It was the safest way to have a baby and heck, we could even have twins! We did it two times. Even though everything was right, for whatever reason, it did not work. We had help from a lot of people to raise money and more than ever, we felt embarrassed and mad.

Door #2 to close: having a baby that was biologically ours.

A year later, we met two little twins at our church who were in the foster care system. Though we didn’t know the foster family well, they invited us to the boy and girl’s first birthday party. We went. We fell in love. That family has become some of our dearest friends. To make a long story short, we got our license, thought they could someday be ours…and it just didn’t happen.

Door #3 to close: our dream kids. 

I went to counseling. I was a mess. I would think, “I”m never going to have kids’, ‘It’ll just be us and I have to be ok with that’, ‘God, you’re heartless.’

I still go to counseling. It is one of the best decisions I made in this process.

Last summer, my friend Katie called me after a counseling visit and left a voicemail saying, “I know you’re done, but call me and see what you think”. Because of all the connections we made through fundraising surrogacy, a friend of a friend connected us to our girls, Jaedyn and Neila. In one last ditch effort of faith, we met them on my husband’s 30th birthday. In September we were chosen out of 12 other families to adopt them. Every detail about them are things I cried and screamed about in prayers for years, even down to their blue eyes and personality quirks. A year later, I am writing this after tucking them into bed. I am so grateful we kept going.

Don’t give up. Push through. You never know what you’re life could look like in a year. In our story, each painful step had to happen in order that we would have our girls. I encourage you to keep putting one foot in front of the other.

infertility storyAbout Natalie Johnson
Natalie is a dental hygienist and pastor’s wife. She and her husband, (and now 2 daughters!), live in Kansas. Natalie has been sharing her story for the past five years to open the conversation about infertility and bring hope to other families who struggle.


  1. Tracy on July 8, 2017 at 10:03 pm

    Congratulations to u both….we have been down this very path ourselves and now our babies are 17 and 15 years old….they are the light of our lives, the joy in our sunshine…and it’s truly been a blessing to be their parents!!! Blessings to u and ur family for a lifetime of sunshine together,!!!

  2. Carolyn McElroy on July 10, 2017 at 10:13 am

    Thanks so much for sharing your story, Natalie. We knew you way back when you were 4, and are thrilled to see how God is blessing you and using you to bring hope and encouragement to so many!
    Little girls are fun…enjoy every moment!

  3. Doug McGarity on July 10, 2017 at 11:33 am

    Thank you so much for sharing your story, Natalie. Your transparency gives strength and healing to others who are at the point of despair. So proud of you.

  4. Bev Elya on July 11, 2017 at 10:54 am

    So very happy for you & your husband! HOW WONDERFUL!! What a perfect family God has blest you with…..Yes I knew you way back when & yes we went down some of the same roads & struggles. And then, God blessed us with our wonderful son, Peter. Could not be happier or rejoicing anymore for you!!! PRAISE GOD!!!

  5. Tera Ziegler on July 11, 2017 at 3:20 pm

    I love this story so much. I had the pleasure of meeting these wonderful people and I know how much these two wanted to have children. I seriously can’t think of two better people to have children. They are so loving and just awesome parents who have inspired so much. Congratulations! I am so incredibly happy for you guys! You deserve to be the parents that you always wanted and were intended to be. God Bless! <3

  6. Judy on July 12, 2017 at 7:59 am

    Thanks for sharing your story! What a beautiful story. Faith, determination and wonderful people in your life make things work out. Beautiful family!!

  7. Karen Swanson on July 12, 2017 at 9:09 pm

    My husband Swanie and I were staying with Gibsons during the time of Brandon’s wedding. We met your little girls and both of you. Did not realize all the heartache you endured. Am overjoyed that you all were brought together. Your strength, courage, and faith are amazing. God bless you all.

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