Parenting After Loss
Potholes of Grief
By: Rose Carlson One of the painful things about grief is there are a multitude of situations that can trigger heavy feelings that you don’t know what to do with, even months and years after your loss. Triggers can come from out of nowhere, and you do not always know what your triggers will be…
Read MoreHow to Help your Grieving Child
By: Rose Carlson Children are often called the forgotten grievers, yet they often feel deep sadness and fear when their baby sibling dies. Depending on their age, they have limited understanding of death and what it means, but they can be quite intuitive and at the very least, they are aware that something is different…
Read MoreHow Come It Feels So Tough To Ask For What We Need?
By: Justine Froelker How come it feels so tough to ask for what we want and need or to say what we need to say? Is it really as tough as we tell ourselves?What holds us back? The discomfort?We don’t want to be a burden?We think and insist on doing everything ourselves?What happens if we…
Read MoreCreating a Healing Memorial Garden
By: Rose Carlson Many people enjoy gardening as a relaxing and comforting way to connect with nature, so creating a special memorial garden may be the ideal project for this spring. The planning process can give you something positive and creative to focus on at a time when you may have difficulty focusing on much…
Read MoreA Letter to my Baby Girl
By: Julz Richterman Finding out I was pregnant 4 months after losing my baby, Bobby, brought a wave of conflicting emotions. I was thrilled I was pregnant again, anxious I would have to live through another nightmare, and angry that the new baby was “replacing” the one I lost. I decided to write this letter…
Read MoreWalking Down the Stairs: Even Good Days Hurt
By: Julz Richterman Tragedy is a gas that seeps into every part of your life. Not only are you left remembering the “before” you, but you are haunted by the “should be” and “what if” you – the you who will never exist. You miss the person who never thought about these two opposing realities:…
Read MoreI Wanted to Say Thank You, but I Couldn’t: A Letter to MY Parents
By: Julz Richterman Saying “thank you” used to be easy. You always supported me, even if you didn’t agree with me. You let me make my own mistakes, celebrated with me when life went well, and stood by me when it didn’t. None of this changed when I said I wanted to go to a…
Read MoreReceive the Healing
By: Justine Froelker Trauma can stay stuck, living in us for long past the harm. Our body remembers, trauma gets stuck in our tissues, our hearts yearn, and our brain makes up stories to keep us as safe and comfortable as possible. It often happened in my office when I was working with individual clients…
Read MoreThe Resentment in Grief
By: Amy Lied It’s been 6 years since our firstborn, our son, was stillborn, after struggling with infertility and suffering a miscarriage previously. Since then we have brought home twin girls, for whom we are immensely grateful. However, despite the joy of our daughters, the pain remains from our journey to parenthood. In the four…
Read MoreA Brother to Remember
By: Amy Lied Raising little, living siblings of an older brother who isn’t here is complicated. We have always been very open with our girls about their older brother, Asher, who died before they were born. They know of him and his place within our family. One time while having a dance party, my daughter…
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