Parenting After Loss
Creating a Healing Memorial Garden
By: Rose Carlson Many people enjoy gardening as a relaxing and comforting way to connect with nature, so creating a special memorial garden may be the ideal project for this spring. The planning process can give you something positive and creative to focus on at a time when you may have difficulty focusing on much…
Read MoreA Letter to my Baby Girl
By: Julz Richterman Finding out I was pregnant 4 months after losing my baby, Bobby, brought a wave of conflicting emotions. I was thrilled I was pregnant again, anxious I would have to live through another nightmare, and angry that the new baby was “replacing” the one I lost. I decided to write this letter…
Read MoreWalking Down the Stairs: Even Good Days Hurt
By: Julz Richterman Tragedy is a gas that seeps into every part of your life. Not only are you left remembering the “before” you, but you are haunted by the “should be” and “what if” you – the you who will never exist. You miss the person who never thought about these two opposing realities:…
Read MoreI Wanted to Say Thank You, but I Couldn’t: A Letter to MY Parents
By: Julz Richterman Saying “thank you” used to be easy. You always supported me, even if you didn’t agree with me. You let me make my own mistakes, celebrated with me when life went well, and stood by me when it didn’t. None of this changed when I said I wanted to go to a…
Read MoreReceive the Healing
By: Justine Froelker Trauma can stay stuck, living in us for long past the harm. Our body remembers, trauma gets stuck in our tissues, our hearts yearn, and our brain makes up stories to keep us as safe and comfortable as possible. It often happened in my office when I was working with individual clients…
Read MoreThe Resentment in Grief
By: Amy Lied It’s been 6 years since our firstborn, our son, was stillborn, after struggling with infertility and suffering a miscarriage previously. Since then we have brought home twin girls, for whom we are immensely grateful. However, despite the joy of our daughters, the pain remains from our journey to parenthood. In the four…
Read MoreA Brother to Remember
By: Amy Lied Raising little, living siblings of an older brother who isn’t here is complicated. We have always been very open with our girls about their older brother, Asher, who died before they were born. They know of him and his place within our family. One time while having a dance party, my daughter…
Read MoreDear Caroline
Sweet Caroline Claire, you were named for Joy and Light, the very same gifts you brought to our lives.
Read MoreWe Are Missing It All
By: Sabrina Ivy We are missing it all. And tonight it hurts like hell. Baby loss isn’t something that just happened at one tragic day in our lives years ago. It is something that we carry with us as we endure each and every day and special occasion that comes and goes without our daughter…
Read MoreTo Ask For And Receive The Courage Of No Quick Fixes
By: Justine Froelker I am a 41-year-old woman who doesn’t have kids, the most common question I get everywhere I go? “How many kids do you have?” Because I am a speaker of the unspoken, my response is always, “We tried really hard to have kids, lost three babies, and work hard to find other…
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