Stillbirth
Back to Normal
By: Ann-Marie Ferry When normal seems on its way And tears have now ceased When all the thoughts in my head Have settled in a calm place The flood gates open Destroying my glimpse of peace When my mosaic heart is crumbling And I can’t take a breath When tears start in my throat Burning…
Read MoreWhat Medical History Doesn’t Say: The Loss of Hopes and Dreams
By: Ann-Marie Ferry Jon pulls the car up to the door of the hospital. I know where to go and what to do. I’ve done this many times before. He drives off to find a parking spot and I waddle towards the elevators. As I wait with several other people for that “ding,” I feel…
Read MoreIn Their Darkest Moments: A Nurse’s Experience Helping Families Say Hello and Goodbye
By: Lisa Zorn Oh “you work in Labor and Delivery as a nurse you must have the best job!” This is the comment I would hear from people when they inquired about what I did. I was quick to remind them that the it’s not as glamorous as most may think, we don’t sit around…
Read MoreMothering Each Day
By: Robyn Busekrus The birds are singing and the sun is shining. When I turn the calendar to May, it brings sadness. I say to myself, “Here we go again.” This month, we honor mothers and for those of us who have been on this loss journey it is difficult. This May, my son would…
Read MoreBooks To Comfort Your Heart: A Quarantine Reading List
Losing a baby can be a lonely, isolating experience, and unless one has known someone who had such a loss, it is easy to feel as if no one understands what you are experiencing. For those who are grieving the death of their baby, the right books can help you process the loss. Different types…
Read MoreA Brief Life But One of Love
By: Anna Eastland I recently attended a celebration of life for a baby boy who lived for one month. His name was Matthew. He had the genetic defect Trisomy 18, so it was actually a miracle he lived that long. Before the funeral Mass, his mother, Maggie, got up and spoke in front of the…
Read MoreBlown Glass
My journey began as sand. Small grains that made up the very essence of my being. Slowly and carefully the Artist worked, added, and toiled to create His work of art. Overtime I became molten glass, untouchable…A force to be reckoned with. A free spirit even the darkest of nights lusted to tame. The sands of time were worked…
Read MoreNo One Really Understands What It Means To Be A Loss Mother
By: Ashley Bonebrake Fairchild Now, don’t get me wrong, I feel incredibly blessed in my life. I have my health and the health of my husband and living daughter. I love them with the fierceness of a lioness and always will. I thank my lucky stars for them every single day. No matter how bad…
Read MoreEmbracing Our Realities Even in the Face of a Shared Grief
By: Tosin Popoola Introduction Among the Yoruba people of Nigeria, pregnancy and perinatal loss are understood and interpreted from the concept of ‘pot and water.’ From the Yoruba worldview, a pregnant woman is like a pot and the pregnancy she is carrying is the water. From this perspective, when Yoruba people want to communicate that…
Read MoreBaby Loss Photography: On Memory and Celebration
By: Anna Eastland Why did we take pictures of those we love? So that at another time in the future we may be present to them again as we were in that moment. Photographs allow us to transcend time. We are able to re-present that moment, to make it present again. Because of our spiritual…
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